Father joins while in high school in the 1950's much to the chagrin of his parents. Persuades girlfriend and future wife to join the cult. Her mother strongly opposed but after they married at a young age not much to say about it. They have 3 children. Youngest has left the org plus none of his kids are in, Middle - still in, as are the 4 kids. Husband is suspect, will probably leave at some point. Oldest, after quitting org, marries bible believing christian, has 3 kids, none in the Borg. 2 begets 5, begets 7. Hopefully all will learn the truth one day soon. The cult is bound to be exposed completely one day.
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JW membership turnover - a real-life study
by besty inmuch has been commented here on how jw's rely on an ever-changing membership for keeping their 'the sky is falling, the world is ending' doctrine fresh.. recently it was posted that fully 2/3 of born-in jw's leave at some point, and i thought you might like to see how this works in practice.. so lets take sam and i and our extended families - we were both born and brought up jw's.
start with me.
mum and dad were converted in the 1950's.
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Successful JW/Non-JW Relationships... How do you make it work?
by cognac ini was thinking we could talk about what works for couples who have good jw/non-jw relationships.
maybe we could get ideas from eachother to help improve ourselves and our relationships!.
i'll start.
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My spouse went running back to the Borg when her JW dad died suddenly. Some friend of her Dad whispered something in her ear at the funeral (probably that she would miss out on paradise) and she quickly abandoned her Savior for the WT lies. I now question whether she ever truly had a real conversion and merely said she did in order for us to be able to marry. I was committed to not being unequally yoked to an unbeliever and now look where I am. Our relationship has deteriorated consistently over the past several years as she has cut off all feelings and emotions. I guess you could say we are roommates. I fully intend to keep my marriage vow, so she will have to be the one to leave which I doubt she will until she gets her inheritance. She won't need me then so I expect her to skip. If I had known she was lying and being deceptive, I certainly never would have married her, but I do thank God daily for our wonderful children. I expect if she ever does leave, she will be quite lonely as our children will reduce contact with her to a minimum.
We get along by not talking about the giant elephant in the room, despite its abudant size and awful odor. She stopped celebrating all holidays, so I do what I can for our kids. The JW's are big on celebrating wedding anniversaries so to compensate her legalism for birthdays, Christmas, Passover, I won't acknowledge our wedding anniversary since it is not something dictated in the scriptures as ok. I was never a JW. I received Christ as my savior as an adult. I strive to set a good example for my children who generally find the WT to be full of falsehoods and bizarre beliefs.
It's not easy being married to a JW. They are like Stepford people. They cannot think for themselves, they follow the GB blindly, and wouldn't know the truth if it bit them on the nose. Very sad - I think my wife lives in fear of not getting it right, not doing enough, and missing out on their dismal paradise. Sad thing is, she's going to get an eternity of torment and doesn't even realize it. I haven't given up hope - The Holy Spirit is put into God's children, so if her conversion was real, she will escape as if coming through fire - with no reward but her eternal soul.